Sometimes You Have to Let Them Go to Grow

[Confederate Starz]

Being a parent in this not so perfect world today isn't always the easiest thing to do. 

The majority of us teach out children as they are growing up some wonderful and everlasting values and morals that they can carry on throughout their lifetimes.  Years later we overhear them passing on some of the things we taught them, and oh what a wonderful feeling that is.

As our children reach marrying age, we expect the lessons we taught them to carry over into their marriages and families lives.  We expect nothing but the best for our children. 

As a parent, I think one of the hardest things we can encounter is when our childrens marriage might not be exactly what we expected for them, and they struggle at unsuccesful relationships, and we reach out and help them, or move them back home as a couple for a while to try and  help guide them and strengthen their foundation.  It is during those times that we realize as hard as it is, that we can guide and direct them and love them and reach out to them, but, unless they want to trust us and follow through with some of the advice, no matter what we say, they are going to do things their way. 

Should the young married couple decide to move out, or make themselves homeless just to prove a point that they aren't as adults going to follow rules in your home, we ache for them, but, unless some of them try and hit rock bottom, they will never reach for the top and success in their lives. 

It's true what they say, "There is only so much we can do and they rest, they have to figure out and do on their own".

They have to strike out once again, and hopefully this will be the time that they grow and learn from their errors in judgement.  Letting them go whether during good times or bad, is still I believe hard for a parent to do.  Our experiences tell us that it is a necessary process that to grow they will have to go and learn from their own decisions and experiences.

I guess what it all boils down to is simply parents are just that parents, and our children, will always be our babies.  We will always want to protect them if they are hurting.